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Top Five Tips for Preventing Child Abduction

Bob Stuber is one of the America’s most recognized safety experts and the creator of Safe Escape, a video series that teaches parents and kids how to practice proactive safety skills. He shares his top five tactics all parents and kids should know to prevent child abduction:


1. Don’t Use the Word Stranger Using the word stranger confuses kids. “Nowadays, kids think a stranger is somebody they can smell before they can even see. They can spot this guy. He’s hideous,” Bob says. That is not always the case. A stranger can look like a normal person to a child.
2. Be Smart, Not Scared Give children specific examples of how to react when approached by a potential predator. “When you’re scared and you respond out of fear, you respond in a predictable manner. Pedophiles know it and they love it. That’s how they want you.” Bob says. “When you’re smart, you’re not predictable.”

3. Learn to Spot Dangerous Actions “You’ve got to teach children to look at actions, not at people,” Bob explains. “Kids cannot discern if a person is good or bad by their appearance. It’s impossible.” For example, if a car drives by you and the person smiles and continues to drive, that’s OK. If the person pulls over and tries to get a child to come to the car, that’s a dangerous action.
Bob also suggests if a child is approached by a person in a car, he or she should immediately walk in the direction that is opposite of the way the car is facing, which makes it more difficult to follow the child.
4. Rules Change When a Child is in Danger Children need to know that they do not need to display normal acceptable behavior when they’re in trouble; they can act out. Bob explains that when a child is in a store, he or she wouldn’t normally make a mess. “If somebody tried to grab a kid out of a store, he needs to know, ‘I can knock anything off this shelf to get attention.’ The more expensive, the better, because then a manager is going to get involved,” Bob says.
Dr. Phil adds that it’s not only important to tell your children that they can act out, but parents should role play with their children. “They need to know when the rules are changed. When you feel threatened, you need to know you’re not going to get in trouble. You can talk back to adults, you can defy, you can yell, scream, pee your pants, knock stuff off a shelf, throw a chair through a window — anything you have to do to get attention — if somebody is taking you against your will,” Dr. Phil says. “If you’re wrong, we’ll clean it up.”

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